Reflections and insights
If you find yourself overwhelmed from:
the external demands of life and the people in it
your own parts carrying the belief that you’re never doing enough, even as you over-give and over-function in your life and relationships
confusion, grief, and loneliness from feeling disconnected from others and not understanding why, or worse yet, the shame from believing you must be the problem
a million other parts inside and out who take over when life feels like too much
I invite you to take a beat and a breath to see if the messages shared here begin to move you toward the clarity, calm, and connection you’re hoping for.
How Inner Conflict can Reveal our Core Values
Inner conflict is something that every single one of us will experience at some point in our lives, though some of us experience it more often than others. This can be compounded for those who already experience challenges with executive function, such as the neurodivergent adults who I have the honor of working with. I have found that a relational and embodied approach to IFS therapy can help us navigate this inner distress with more understanding, and oftentimes, more effectiveness.
The Storm Before the Calm: offering the gift of presence to overwhelmed parts
For many, the well-intentioned advice to "calm down" can feel like one more thing we're failing at. Here's what I've come to understand, both through my own lived experience as an AuDHDer and through my work as an IFS therapist: calm is not a destination we can force our way into. It is something that emerges, often on the other side of the storm we've been trying so hard to avoid.